It is true, though, that comparison is the thief of joy.

Yes, especially in relationships.

It's kind of like if we are comparing our lives on social media, right? And we're showing the best version of ourselves.

Definitely comparison is a thief of joy.

And then it's like he's trying to live up to this expectation of somebody who is no longer with them, right? But she didn't choose to break up with her husband, right? Her husband passed away.

And so this is the unhealthy pattern that sometimes we see in couples therapy, right? And instead of letting the competition play out, It's how can we enter a therapy and into the safe space and say, how can I meet you into a healthy space and not want to compete with you? I want to join with you and understand where this pain is coming from.

Yeah, but what's the first step that he should be taking right now in this situation?

This is going to take a lot of recovery, right? Because in a way, this is a form of betrayal.