What advice, if somebody was listening to this and they were just going through like that kind of like immediate post breakup, what advice would you have for someone going through that that really helped you feel stronger a year later?

I didn't do this for a very long time and it's to allow yourself to feel sad.

I used to chase like the endorphin rush of seeing my friends as soon as I had said argument or upset with my ex I'd just be like on the phone to my friend or my mum and I'd have to see someone whereas yeah I'm not telling people to stop seeing like their friends but sometimes like just allowing yourself and like understanding why you're feeling like that and just grounding yourself and just giving yourself a moment to just cry or be angry and just sit with your feelings and that's something I've really struggled with for a very long time because the thoughts in my head, like, they race when I'm really, like, anxious.

So just sitting there and just, like, digesting everything and then in another scenario that I'm faced with, like, an argument, I'm not as, like, irate.

Like, say, for example, if I...

I felt a certain way and I rang my friend, but then that certain way happened again and my friend didn't answer.

I'm then going into like crisis mode and I'm like, oh my God, what do I do? So I think you have to feel the emotions and like really go through it.

And I remember really seeing your stories and loving that you were documenting that because I think... again it can feel sometimes like oh if i'm going through something like i just need to follow advice online and this girl went on this solo trip and she made it look like she had a great time so maybe if i go away and i do that like i'll feel like that too but it's like i think to me it just showed like you have to do what feels authentic to you and what you feel like will help you and sometimes it's not following all of these things online like glamorizing solo trips because actually like you said like they can be a bit daunting sometimes like especially as a woman safety I remember when I I was in Rome by myself um for like three days on like a solo trip and I remember I went to a restaurant and the waiter was like oh like I'll give you drinks I'll give you drinks and I wasn't drinking and I was like no I'm okay and he was like bringing me shots and I was like I don't know what's in these drinks like I mean I wasn't drinking them but I was like please like stop and I just remember feeling like I don't have anyone here and that can be a really uncomfortable thing and I think something that not everyone considers when they're booking a trip like that I