No, please, please.

Listen, I always, because Adam is a polarizing figure, I always like to start with the fact that I think Adam does pursue excellence as a human.

He really strives to be excellent.

And Adam will not ask of anyone what he's not asking of himself tenfold.

So let's start with that.

But listen, I think we had moments where we wondered if...

the outfits were a way perhaps to shield from going deeper, right? Because I think for me, that's more what it was, right? If we're talking about this, maybe we don't have to talk as deeply inside.

Is there a right way to tell your partner you're struggling with physical attraction without destroying the other person's self-esteem in the name of honesty, in the name of vulnerability? You know, is there something as being too honest or the wrong way of being honest?

Where should we be giving more room to people?

Yep.

I- Across the board, I think if you are really looking for love, and not because you're desperate and you have no standards, not from that position.

From the space of I don't wanna write people off so quickly, I think we should be forgiving across the board until you're like, "I know I'm just not that into this person," right? If you're making any one thing a litmus test, you're getting in your own way.

And this is one of the things that we talk about on the show, right, is, like, deal breakers.

If you have any one deal breaker, you're getting in your own way.

So I think this idea about creating a little bit more bandwidth across the board lets you really see if it's that big of a deal or not.

If you could give a single person who has been unlucky in love one piece of advice that would genuinely change the way that they date.

You know what I mean? Yeah.

But we still look for, is there a shared value structure? Do we think that these people have similar definitions of how they wanna move through the world? Are they valuing intellectual intimacy? Do they have similar endeavors? So not so much this l- this metric of, like, he has to be five foot nine.

Mm-hmm.

And yet one of the things we ask of, of the participants is to be willing to sit tight because we like the idea that chemistry is the first thing, but if you think about the order of the way a relationship develops, sometimes the connection, the emotional connection, the intellectual intimacy, the humor connection, sometimes that's what sparks first, and then the physical connection comes later.

So it is so important that it's there, but it's not necessarily important that it's the first thing we feel.

So the willingness to sit tight through it is pretty critical.