There's a couple of things in there.

There there are.

And I think that there's a lot of really great stuff written to help those of us that are not neuro spicy to understand what it is like for someone who is and the rejection that they feel.

is legitimately more intense, the emotions that go with it are stronger, and it's really important that whoever they are in a close relationship with understands that and has the knowledge to bring a sensitivity to the situation.

It doesn't mean it's always going to be there in the moment of conflict, but the more that there can be communication that says, When this happens, I feel.

So it's a vulnerability on the person who needs to be understood.

And then it's beholden on the one that cares for that person to acquire the knowledge and the skills and for them to work out.

It almost feels like there is a space of vulnerability and being able to be vulnerable with your partner or with your loved one, but at the same time realising that they're going to hold that with tender and care, even in conflict.

It's got to be such a common scenario that we've all faced.

So common.

And I think our responses to it, the negative responses, the unhelpful responses are also incredibly common.

And the challenge for us if we want to have healthy functional relationships is to not do what comes naturally in that moment.

And to actually... acknowledge that we're both activated.

And if we just do what we feel like doing in that moment, it's going to derail things for quite some time.

And we've got lots of options that we can choose.

How do we manage those dynamics in the relationship and acknowledge each other's feelings and responses?