Mm-hmm.

So for me, and what I teach my clients, is that you have to let yourself feel your feelings, that, A, you are not your thoughts.

Like, the things that you think are not who you are.

Your brain is just busy, busy trying to fill up your mind and keep you, keep you busy with thoughts, but they're not who you are, and your feelings are not in charge of you, and they don't require an immediate response.

In the pre-self-love version of myself, um, I would have a difficult feeling, and if I let myself feel it at all, I needed immediate resolution.

If there was a conflict with someone, if I was wondering what so-and-so was thinking about what our last interaction was and stressing out, or if this person that I'm dating isn't texting back right away, anything, I just needed out of the misery of the bad feelings right now.

Like, no ti- no ability-

Mm-hmm