So how do we learn that? Like if someone's not good at that, how do we build that emotional awareness?

Great question.

So there is an exercise that I would – and let me go to this first.

I don't know the – overall health of your marriage or the health of your spouse.

So I want to caveat that by saying your spouse may not or you may not be at a place where you can do this quite yet with your husband or wife.

So you may need to see a counselor to start.

You may need to see someone to become, to get emotional awareness, you know, and to not be as quote unquote prickly.

So how does emotional safety and sexual intimacy, how do those relate?

Yeah.

Yeah.

I remember there, uh, was a mom of a 12-year-old who came up to me after giving a talk on emotional safety, and she said, "Josh," she said, "I don't know what to do.

My son's learning how to rap." And I was like, "Okay." So I walked through a couple questions.

You know, 1 Corinthians 15 says, "Bad company corrupts good character." Is he hanging out with kids that he shouldn't be hanging out with? She said, "Oh, no, they're youth group kids.

Like, I know their parents.

They're good kids." I said, "Well, is he listening to lyrics that are violent or demeaning to women?" And she said, "No, he's listening to Lecrae, who's a Christian rap artist." And I said, "Then I only got one piece of advice for you," and I got down on my knee, 'cause that's typically how I do to enter into their world, eye level.

Yeah.

Do kids get that through that boredom factor? Like a resiliency can be built by them having to figure out what to do? Oh,

I think so.

Because when they start figuring things out on their own, it gives them confidence.

They start to get self-awareness.

They have a sense of agency that they can do something.

Whereas when I first started looking into this, I started noticing that Steve Jobs didn't give his kids an iPad.

We created the thing.

And that is Christian.

And I think the body part has actually been the part we've missed a lot.

Yeah, no, it's true.

The definition of joy is being the apple of someone's eye.

That when you walk into a room, you get the experience that someone is glad to see me.

That that's what relational joy really is.

And when you take that scripturally...

We can't translate the Hebrew as well into English, into what it means.

I'll give a