Jonathan Aslay
Midlife dating and relationship coach, self-love advocate, founder of Understand Men Now, and author of "What The Heck Is Self-Love Anyway?" and "Understand Men NOW."
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PODCASTS
Sep 19, 2026
JohnHOST
communicating,
Jonathan AslayGUEST
You could tell she had a lot of animosity about past relationship and she was lacking a sense of warmth and receptivity.
Jonathan AslayGUEST
So that's certainly a trait that, you know, most everybody appreciates in one another.
Jonathan AslayGUEST
You know, I would say without a doubt, the second one that I'm about to share, which is emotional maturity and self-awareness.
Jonathan AslayGUEST
These are traits that, quite frankly, most humans are still at the infancy stage at emotional maturity and self-awareness.
6 MINS LATER
JohnHOST
So now would the converse be the same? You said there's overlap,
Jonathan AslayGUEST
So, you know, what's interesting is by the time he passed away, I'd already began a journey of self-discovery when I went through a divorce about 13 years earlier.
8 MINS LATER
Etu DanielHOST
What will you say to someone or what will you remind someone listening right now who feels emotionally broken and unworthy of love?
Jonathan AslayGUEST
You can go to your Instagram and TikTok and your s- Facebook, and you'll probably come across 95% of rhetoric that is just not only bad dating advice, but it's rage bait advice.
Jonathan AslayGUEST
It's designed to get you riled up at either, you know, close to hating men or hating women, and it just inflames a, you know, an, you know, a negative picture.
Jonathan AslayGUEST
[lip smack] And if you feed that negative picture, you will just continually experience what you don't want.
Jonathan AslayGUEST
What it requires is a complete paradigm shift, a shift to love, a shift to, to being crystal clear on what it is that you need from a relationship, what you desire.
Jonathan AslayGUEST
Paint a picture of what it looks like and, and paint a picture on hope and love and knowing.
16 MINS LATER
Jonathan AslayGUEST
You're talking to someone, you're on a date, and by the way, my demographic is that over 40, so roughly 75% people over 40 are divorced, okay? So I'm gonna use this as an example.
Jonathan AslayGUEST
Hey, so what happened in your marriage? That kind of sucks that you got divorced.
12 MINS LATER
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You're like, why did you still say that? You're like, why did you give a title that sounds so dickish? Well,