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lot of us believe that I could think my way out of stress, you know, or I might be in a really tense situation and just think like, oh, Jillian, relax.

But Stress isn't only a thought.

It's a whole body experience.

And our body is constantly responding to our environment.

And if we want to calm our body or calm our mind, I should say, it's a bottom-up job.

Safety is something the body experiences.

It's so omnipresent and it takes away from our attention in of what's going on in the present moment and as you said earlier with rumination and worrying then that puts us in a state of bodily tension you know getting ready for fight or flight so it's it's so good to be aware of that and I I want to jump into your your method because it's it's beautifully easy to remember so let's I want you to explain that I won't I won't even try I'll let you do all the explaining of your lar lar method

Is he still with us or has he passed?

He's not.

He actually, um, and my TED Talk t- is, is really based on my evolution of my personal practice driven by wanting an inner reconciling around my experience of love with him.

And, um, he died on a Valentine's Day, which for me is like this huge metaphor of everything.

Uh, you know, if you look past the hallmark holiday of it, but think of it as a, as a day that we contemplate love in so many different ways.

And, um, when he did die, which [laughs] it was, forget the date now, but it's like I think 2011 when he did pass.

I had about a decade with him where, you know, he still was who he was, but I was different around him because of my practice, which allowed me to receive the love he was actually offering me, regardless of it not being the love, [laughs] the love I really imagined I wanted or should have from a father as a younger person.

Hmm.