like, you never even have time to go to

your doctor's appointments.

My husband, when we met, was a very heavy-set dude, probably like 350 pounds.

And after being together so long and realizing the pattern that the men in his family died before they turned 60.

Okay.

His grandmother had 13 children, and all the men were gone before they turned 60 years old.

So I'm thinking, as I'm having children with this man, I'm like, I got five kids.

Like I know that it's costing me a lot to be here and to be living in the way that I'm living right now, whether that's like extreme stress, anxiety, whether that's she not breathing, whatever it is, what would you tell her? Well, where would you tell her to