And now we're in it and we're doing it and it's literally destroying us.

Yeah, that resonates with me because I remember...

So first of all, as a performer, I didn't get any kind of mat leave.

I think I got six weeks or something.

And I remember my baby in the bed with me, I think four weeks old, and I had the laptop and the day planner and my phone out and scheduling all these things.

And I had a doula at the time, and she followed Chinese medicine.

And she said, you know...

So I do think we did all feel that time pressure of, well, you got to get something done before you walk into the abyss because it would appear that there's nothing.

And like, they had to laugh about it because it was literally unearthly, but people think helps to somebody who's going through grief.

Yeah.

And I would say my biggest belief around well-being is that we just are not meant to go through hard things alone.

And people are our biggest resources.

But when we are struggling, right, our tendency is just like pull away, don't show weakness or don't burden people.

That's what they're there for.

That's it.

There's, there's plenty to go around.