I think if you apply the standard strictly on the facts, she knew what she was doing enough to be guilty here.

I see.

I disagree with that because everything you just said, like the planning, et cetera, she can also do that under a psychosis too.

And to me, that makes the reasonable doubt argument a thing.

Where, and the Judge Sullivan kept on saying, "You have to obey the law here.

There's a reasonable doubt.

The prosecution has to prove it." I just think there's too much doubt when you look at all the information from September to January that you're re- you're past that 90% threshold that she definitely should be convicted.

... have that conversation.

Yep.

And you might be able to find a community of people that have been through the same thing.

Now, I don't recommend people stay there forever, though, and eventually the next step would be taking a look at your side of the street, and that's where I come up with, "Okay, what could I have done differently?" Well, the answer I came up with was practicing radical self-respect because for me, and this will be different for everybody, but for me, I wasn't happy on my own.

I really was just hooked on how this woman made me feel about me.

Like, I liked her telling me how attractive she thought I was.

Uh, sex played a part, too, and just I was, I was basically hooked.

I was like, I just liked how this person made me feel.

Can you walk us through a more practical sense of how would somebody know, like, "I'm living with radical self-respect"?

that's where love bombing becomes love bombing otherwise it's just somebody being kind to you and people i think don't realize like that distinction you know what if they're just being nice to me okay that's fine what happens at the end of that part of the cycle are they just consistent or do they like just chill out but not punish you is there some other variable that shows up

I think that's an interesting part of it, too.

Like you said, it's not just about it's not even about gifts at all, especially for men or men on the receiving end of being love bombed.

All it takes is sex.

If you get tons of sex from an attractive person right away, for most men, that's going to be better than most gifts.

And that's all it takes.

And narcissistic women and sometimes borderline women too, they know exactly that's what men want.

And then what's really interesting too, like what you mentioned about your cousin, were there variables involved with the family dynamic where you were dealing with the smear campaign? Did you get blacklisted from family? Did people push you out or did you distance yourself? What did that end up looking like?