Mm.

So we're using so much of our energy to avoid what we're feeling, when if we can slow down and feel that feeling, there's something in there that we care about, right? When we're angry, there's a reason, and I'm not mad at you, I'm mad because I care about something, right? And you may have reminded me of the thing that I care about.

Same with grief, right? Same with fear.

There's information in there.

And so the more we can be with our emotions and listen, the more information we have, the more agency have... we have, the more capacity we have for understanding what I'm feeling, why I'm feeling it, what is important to me, what needs to be said, what did I just need to feel and I don't need to communicate.

Whereas when we're not feeling our emotions and we don't have the emotional maturity to be with our emotions, they come out on their own.

Mm.

We don't have control over them.