Every time the blamer blames, it delays your own healing.

I think that's a part I have a lot of feelings about, but I definitely have a blamer part.

I will say that.

Yeah.

I think now it probably comes out most in my marriage.

But when my kids were smaller, my kids are 15 and 12, and things were a lot more challenging and hectic.

And I was thinking a lot and trying to anticipate every need they might have.

And thinking about it now and sharing so openly, do you have a sense of how it was trying to help you?