Can you explain that a little bit?

You bet.

This difference is really crucial.

And if you're listening and you're thinking like, oh, yeah, I've been trying to set boundaries, but they're just not working, you've probably been making requests instead of setting boundaries.

So let's yeah, let's let's suss that out.

So when we make requests of others, it's pretty straightforward.

We're asking them to change something, often their behavior, in order to meet our needs.

I didn't know how I felt in the moment So I didn't say anything in the moment,