Or we don't create that me, me, me too early because of rankings and travel teams and social media and all the other things that happen.

Yeah.

Yeah.

There's, it's, uh, it's certainly an interesting, uh, kind of window into a relationship when you get to see these couples as they're especially preparing to be married or considering it and uh wanting to gain some of the skills to succeed there so one one of the things that i tell couples but that i try to kind of subtly keep an eye on um is this idea when you're having a maybe a disagreement if you have to think about it as uh You're a team trying to solve a problem.

The problem's external to you.

So as opposed to it being me versus my wife, it's my wife and I versus the problem.

And we have to define that problem external to us so that we're working together to solve it.

Like you get to own that a little bit.