I know there's a lot more to say, but let me pause and just see how this lands with you.

Yeah.

One of the things, and this is a dynamic that happens even when in any couple really is, is that we can get into this dynamic of criticism and defensiveness.

And once it goes there, then it just tends to escalate.

I mean, as far as, like you said, trying to hash out the facts of the situation is not going to get you anywhere because my facts are going to be different than your facts.

Because my perspective is different from your perspective.

It's kind of like an example that comes to mind for me.

Imagine that you could