You can tell me.

Yeah, I think the hardest part, well, I mean, in some ways I think we were lucky in that we both had an agreement on what we wanted for our daughter for the most part.

I mean, for the big picture things, we both wanted to share custody.

We both enjoy being parents.

We both appreciate the other person as a parent as well.

So And we also were lucky in the fact that there was no cheating.

There was no deceit.

how um now when i look at it i'm like oh yeah i can absolutely have this you know more of the give and take stuff how long would you say it took to go from maybe it being a little hotter to it being a cooler