What happens to our judgment when we spend too long operating in reaction mode?

Well, if there's a crisis, there's a big problem, there's a challenge, absolutely.

Reactions, it's great because we're mitigating something, right? We're responding to something in an accurate manner in the precise moment.

And that's why an entrepreneur has the ability to problem solve a quick decision.

That's fantastic.

But when we are doing this over and over and over again with small things like through the day, one email, someone that needs to take leave, a decision that needs to be taken in a meeting, some organization that needs to be done, an approval here, a client there, more cashflow, another project or whatever, then our energy is being drained in so many small tasks that we actually lose perspective and the ability to focus on the bigger tasks that need to be really solved.

And the business is going nowhere because we have spent all day being busy and going around but but really not being productive but we think we're productive because we've been doing a lot of little things the other thing is that when we're reactive we are constantly being wired okay this is from a psychologist perspective because that's my role too we're being wired to be responding and being vigilant thinking and scanning for any threat that may be happening constantly adapting to the circumstances that something bad may happen, which is a negative thought in our mind.

Well, Faye, if someone feels as though their business has consumed all the available space in their life, where do they start reclaiming some of it without neglecting the business?

there you go anyway all right so we know you're a psychologist and you're now an author but i'd love it if you can tell us a little bit more about who you are and the work you do today Well,

I'm a psychologist and I'm mainly my work now is about supervising.

So I had a business.

I was a business owner for 16 years.

I closed the business in February this year because it was too much really to manage.

And I decided to focus more on being the CEO of my own life.

Because being the CEO of many people sometimes is quite draining.

I think that I was very

Were you supported in your efforts to leave?

Well, yes and no.

I guess the women in my family sort of like supported me.

Sort of, I say, because they still thought that we could mend things and we could move back together, and we could give people a second chance, and we could do like the, um, the Catholics do, forgive and move on, and they believed in that because most of them had done that.

There was a lot of women in my family, and lots of them had had unfaithful husbands, and they had forgiven, they had moved on and, you know, and they said that that was the right thing to do, the right thing to do.

Um, and then the men were not very happy with my decision.

They didn't think.

[laughs]

So at what point does being committed to your business tip over into allowing it to consume too much of your life? And that is a fantastic

question to start because I've been an entrepreneur myself.

I had a business for 16 years and it started like a little startup when I decided to quit my full-time job.

And, you know, you run through ideas in your head and then suddenly you start something and then it grew into a company.

We actually had four different places.

It was a psychological service.

And It grew exponentially beyond what I expected.

It