You get to choose it.

Yeah, that's why I love the framing of it as a training, as a practice.

This is all a practice.

And much of what we were just sharing about the posture collapse framework is um practicing awareness having the awareness that there are some things that are happening under the hood that we may not be fully aware of and when we bring that awareness of it can we use the equanimity to allow them to happen And it can be very hard to identify those things, to embrace those things when we don't have community around us, when you don't have other people serving as mirrors or reflecting back to us, how we're being in the impact that it's having on them.

And that is very common today for men to spend a lot of time alone.

Yeah.

So this is the lone wolf, you know, um, And there's sort of the individualist, capitalist, cutthroat competition that we're all divorced from village, divorced from community, and just in pursuit of our own greater good.

And I guess both can be true.