Mm-hmm.

You have to compromise.

No one is completely built for you so that they just slide into your life seamlessly.

That's just not how it works.

We are full people coming to the table, right? So I fully agree with you that any relationship you're going to be in, even the one you choose if you want to be with one person the rest of your life, you're going to have to make compromises.

Whether you call that settling or settling down or whatever you want to call it, no one is going to satisfy 100% of what you think you wanted.

And That's normal.

At what point in a relationship should you start to feel like, and maybe it's different for everyone, but feel like the relationship is actually not just about companionship, but if one partner wants it to go in the direction of something a little more serious, a deeper commitment, how does one know, assess, bring that up in conversation,

But then

I thought, I can measure things in here.

What's my response rate? So if I'm writing to people, what's the probability this person is going to write back to me? And I made little tweaks, make the profile longer or shorter, different pictures to try to improve that response rate.

And then I said, well, what's my conversion rate? If somebody writes back to me, do we go on a date? And so I made tweaks to improve that too.

You know, what sorts of messages to send, how long to send those messages.

I learned a lot.

Then my friend started asking me for help and sort of that's how the idea was born.

This

meaning it.

She listened to actions more than words.

I wrote down a few things.

One, hanging out.

Hanging out is not dating.

That's number one.

Two, feels like.

with

So what's the first step to making that switch?

It's hard.

I mean, it's easy to tell someone, make the switch, right? It's hard.

I mean, I can't force people to change their mindset.

I think people are very tied to whatever their last experience was.

So if they went on a bad date, They're very tied to this being their dating life.

I have someone I'm working with right now.

I