So when you were in this survival mode then, how much attention were you able to give to your own well-being? What was the moment when you realised you needed to start looking after yourself too?

OK, I think essentially I was in survival mode.

And I think when you're in survival mode, you you put yourself at the bottom of the pile.

Everything else feels more urgent.

So, you know, you're co-regulating with your child.

And, you know, that was all consuming back then at that time.

you've got things like OT appointments you might be fighting for a diagnosis chasing up EHCP applications we were dealing with part-time timetables and negotiating that and explaining EBSA over and over and of course all the endless research where you're just trying to find answers so really with all that going on you kind of forget about yourself and I think The turning point came for me in moments where my reactiveness felt uncontrollable and scary to me.

So what are micro moments and how can parents who do feel overwhelmed at the moment begin to find and use them?