I wonder if you wouldn't be open to talking with us a little bit about how that has shaped your journey, is a word I don't love, but journey as a writer.

No, I would love to talk about that.

I did write a piece about it for O Daily, for Oprah, in part because it's something so many people go through, and being a caretaker is very underrated.

The amount of effort and grief and recovery it takes is very underrated.

To tie it into, just quickly, the book, I had started writing Reasons to Lie, and briefly, my brother got sick with lung cancer from 9/11, and on the fa- first day of his chemotherapy, my mother fell while reaching for her cell phone to hear how he was and fractured her spine.

And so I was kind of the only one left standing.

[laughs] And luckily we all, uh, live close together in Manhattan.

So would you mind kind of sharing with us how your experience as a mother informed just some of the relationships you wrote in the book?