Mm-hmm.

A- and so a solid script for that is, "I feel when you..." and it makes me.

"So I feel embarrassed and angry when you put me down in front of your parents, and it makes me not wanna have, not only avoid them, but push you away." So I feel when you, and it makes me, right? Because here's the emotion, here's the behavior, and here's the consequence.

It's not just about the consequences, right? I think so many s- times people think about, "Oh, the consequences, um, I'm gonna leave." A lot of times, most consequences are natural consequences.

"I don't wanna have sex with you.

I don't wanna go on date nights with you.

I don't wanna help you do your things.

Mm-hmm.