How does that show up for clients? The financial manipulation.

Typically, for years prior to getting to the divorce, and I'm gonna say the majority of my clients are 20-plus year marriages, long-term marriages, that they've been groomed in some way over those years of You're spending too much.

You're always too much in doing it and trying to whittle down, or now they're on an allowance, or they can only have one credit card and it has a lower limit.

And so they're kind of cut out of a lot of, of financial portion of it.

And when the divorce comes, all of a sudden credit cards are canceled, passwords are changed.

They need an attorney, but now they don't have access to the family funds to do a retainer for an attorney, and they don't have a credit card yet to get the attorney.

It can be a really rock and a hard place situation.

now.Can we give some examples of gaslighting? 'Cause I feel like that's something I hear people say a lot, but what does that actually mean?