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know, I was talking about sort of the emotional part of disordered eating and in writing the book, you know, just like the first season of the podcast, we sort of delayed this discussion about eating disorders until sort of later in the book.

And much of the book is written as you know, as sort of like the lead.

And then I respond, you know, from a doctor's view, from a dad's view, etc., And I naively thought, oh, I'm going to write a couple of paragraphs just by like asking my daughter, who's, you know, his age, you know, so what was your experience like having anorexia? Like, idiot, you know, that's going to be, you know, two paragraphs.

And it turned into maybe like one of the longest chapters of the book, because guess what? She had questions for me.

What were mom and you thinking? And, you know, why didn't you do this? And why did you do that? And being emotionally evoked, I was cringing when I was reading like, oh, yeah, I've had to reread that chapter a half dozen times now.

And just kind of saying, do I look, you know, as stupid as I was? Disordered eating is so prevalent and it's so much part of the culture that when someone's sitting at our dinner table exhibiting it, we just kind of like, oh, you know, you're you know, you're tapering for a swim meet.

any sort of behavior change that comes out of self-hatred is doomed to fail everything i did in my like late teens to early 20s came out of a sense of self-loathing you're in your body all day long 24 7 and to have that kind of sense of self-loathing it's impossible for it not to creep into every sense you have of yourself beyond just your physical self making changes out of self-love is not only going to be a more enjoyable process, but is also a process that will probably last for the rest of your life.