Where did that tag come from? What does it mean?

Oh, absolutely.

So I, I spent a great deal of my career d- dealing with people and their relationships, and I'm somebody who really will fight for someone's relationship, because if you can make the changes within your relationship that you already have established and it's...

You've, you've bonded, and you know how hard it is to meet somebody new that you're compatible with, so you wanna work with what you have.

You picked this person for a reason, and somehow maybe you fell out of love or you found them to be not the perfect, uh, th- the perfect match, right? You were disappointed.

You had expectations that weren't met.

Okay, but let's work and see if there's something that can be, can be healed, because healing, if we heal those old wounds that have been created, even betrayals, right? Even...

Um, so it gets very tricky because the experts talk a lot about, um, our own in- inbred ageism that women carry around with them as much, if not more, than other folks.

Dr. Mandel, does any of this make sense to you?

Well, I love your polarities because they make things really clean and simple, but I'm going to disagree on a couple of fronts.

The first one, though, that you said, which is that you have to be ready to get married.

I wholeheartedly agree with that because, you know what, if you are not ready, if somebody is just putting... you up to it and you're saying, oh my gosh, I have to do this because the timeline says so, then it's not, of course, it's not going to work.

If you're not into it a hundred percent, then there's no way that you could have a successful marriage.

But unfortunately for many people, the time clock keeps ticking and ticking and they're never really ready because they have so much ambivalence.

I've had a couple of clients where, you know, they could be sitting in that frame for from now to eternity and will never be ready.

Any other questions like that, Deborah? These are very practical, good questions.