Mm.

And so- and that's reinforced by a lot of, um, hustle culture.

I mean, you can throw a stone and find it on YouTube or Instagram.

It's like, you know, "If you're not working, somewhere someone is, and when you meet them, they will win." And like, I'm like, okay, well, maybe, but probably not, 'cause Christ said, "My yoke is easy," right? So, like, there's gotta be an easier way.

There's gotta be prosperity and abundance and possibility available for all of us.

And so that was a big part of what I'm still down-regulating my nervous system towards, right? Is this idea of like, no, I just need to be, do more, or there's not enough time.

People are living in time scarcity all the time.

Yeah

Yeah.

Give it some time.

You're not gonna figure it out today.

It may not be this week.

But we're learning, you know, Bruce Lee talks about being like bamboo.

Bamboo is strong because it knows when to be rigid, but it also sways in the wind.

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Yeah.

Vaya, qué terrible.

Sí, no estaba bien.

Mi sueño ha mejorado con el tiempo, pero todavía no dormía bien.

Entonces, estaba en esta búsqueda de tener una relación personal con Dios y pasé una o dos semanas durmiendo mal.

Mi esposa me dijo: ¿por qué no te levantas temprano y escribes en un diario en lugar de simplemente volver a la cama? Yo pensaba: no quiero levantarme a las cinco y escribir en un diario.

Apenas estoy intentando dormir unas horas más.

Luego volví a leer.

¿Como qué?

Mm.

'Cause my son was here.

He's what mattered.

And I stopped making the underperformance of my podcast matter, 'cause that was the resistance.

One of my mentors said, "What you make matter becomes matter." Right? That's what we do.

We're human beings.

We are able to take something and create it in, uh, nothing and create it into something.

Yes

Yeah.

Um, and so when, when, you know, when you look at the flavor of personal growth that I really like, which is, you know, um, it requires doing an inventory and an audit.

Um, eh, that's the beautiful part of, uh, my experience in 12-step, is that that's what the steps are.

They're an inventory and an audit.

Um, and so, you know, people can do that in a number of ways.

You, you can sit down and actually take a look at your life, but the beautiful thing is that life is just gonna reflect back to you the audit, the audit that's wanting to be seen right now, too, right? 'Cause if you really do, um, create your reality, which should not be a, um, uh, too shocking of a concept for most people based on just how behavioral psychology works and how neuroscience works.

And we can talk about, you know, whether or not we become too egotistical about us creating our reality versus some form of co-creation with a higher power, right? Which I think is an important perspective.

Mm-hmm.

Did he say it out loud or was it more just an internal feeling?

It was, it was an internal feeling.

Um, I, I didn't have- ... a self-awareness until probably my early 30s when, you know, I was running a venture-backed technology company, I was chasing success.

I was like, um, you know, everybody expected me to be really successful 'cause I was a bright kid, and I, and I, and I, I felt like I needed to do that in order to be loved.

So, like I was always, you know, kinda good, uh, at, at, at my career, but as, as that overdeveloped itself within me, um, and as I continued to not realize that below the surface there were these wounds that needed to be healed, I was dealing with it through drug abuse, alcoholism, uh, sex addiction.

And so in my early 30s when I hit my bottom and I got into recovery, I started becoming aware that, wow, in, in, in all these different areas of my life, the observation that I'm making subconsciously is there's something wrong with me.

What would you say is the number one limiting belief of most people, then?

Uh, I'm not enough.