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I thought I was prepared, and then baby came, and, you know, to your point earlier, I felt myself become less of a part of my partner's experience.

And correctly so, she's got a brand-new baby she's nursing and doing all the caretaking.

And I initially imagined myself as a helper of sorts.

"Oh, I'm gonna help with baby.

I'm gonna help with diapers." And that framework was really disempowering for me, and it puts a lot more of a burden of responsibility on my partner to, like, she didn't sign up to, like, boss me around or, like, tell me how to do all these things, and I didn't really sign up to be bossed around.

But when we have that helper mindset, we're automatically putting ourselves in a secondary wait and see, wait for this, wait for that, and it doesn't really work.

How does your coaching work?