The

bad mom flies in the face of all the good girl conditioning.

Yes.

When I have needs, I speak up about them.

If I get angry, I'm not always swallowing it.

I have limits.

I have boundaries.

So

So just to kind of give you a

sense, right, we're in touch with our emotions, but we still feel like we need to push through and like power through, right? Like that's just somewhat of what defines us.

But when I was growing up, we had no computers in the house.

right? There were no tablets, no smart.

We had two phones.

One was in my parents' room.

One was in the kitchen.

And I thought that's what I love the most about your book is that You have come up with solutions of how we can start making the change for future generations.

Yeah.

And everybody wants to do it right.

Everybody wants to do anything that they endeavor around right.

Yeah.

It's just natural human instincts.

So the story that we're sold that if we're doing motherhood right, it will feel natural, it will feel effortless, and it will feel fulfilling at all times.

So that, and here's the rub, so that when it inevitably feels hard or or overwhelming, or overstimulating, or suffocating, or monotonous, or yes, a woman doesn't question the fantasy.

And then how it kind of ties into the rest of this, how would you explain this setup kind of working in real life where these three pieces are tying into each other?