What has that taught you kind of about how there's no one the same, particularly when we're talking about kind of autistic and the spectrum? Yes,

that's a very important question.

I think I started off by realizing that I am not the same mom.

You know, I, even though it's, I've birthed both of them, same parents, same city where I lived, I am not the same mom.

And when I, I then was diagnosed really young when he was 17 months old.

So I, I was a new mom.

I was new in the autism world.

And, you know, in your books, you cover... whole range of things from kind of meltdowns to masking to yeah a whole range um and i'd love for you to kind of just share why did you decide one to write these books and why did you decide kind of those specific kind of moments or or feelings