Yeah.

If you do not have an allosexual partner who is willing to really sit with themselves and their partner and the situation and think really deeply about what does it mean for me to have an asexual partner, to really internalize what that means and that it is not any fault of their own that asexuality is an orientation and it's not personal, and they need to be okay with that.

'Cause really, even allosexual people have varying degrees of libido.

[laughs] Situations could happen where an allo partner who with a generally low libido can be very compatible with an ace person who's pretty sex neutral and isn't averse like we are.

You know, if it's an occasional happenstance, maybe that works out great for both of them on paper.

But if the allo partner does have these more deeply entrenched ideas about what they think sexual attraction should feel like or how it should manifest in the relationship, there can still be a barrier.

I mean, sex even amongst two allos should be more than just putting a date on the calendar.

Mm-hmm.