And the neurotypical person might think, "It never seems like my partner is trying to contribute or show me love and care." And so I wonder, how do you help two partners who have, like, a pretty big m- understanding gap in what is appropriate to expect in a close relationship?

Usually these are people who do love and care for each other.

That's why they're coming, right? Because they, they wanna find that again.

So I find out how this person is expressing their love and care.

So for example, I saw a couple recently who the woman, um, was deciding to change her job and look for a new job, and she felt like her partner was just not supporting her at all in that, just not caring.

And this was in a session, and he was like dumbfounded, like, "What? I helped you research all these other jobs.

I told you, like, I'd be willing to move.

When you say a third kind of way, what, what kinds of s- solution spaces have you arrived at with the couples you work with?

So if there are challenges in communication, what might those challenges be in a neurodivergent, neurotypical relationship?

One of the ways people are diagnosed autistic have to do with their difference in communication with neurotypical people.

So that is so huge, right? Because when your brain is wired differently, everything is wired differently.

So the rules of communication are very, very different.

I don't want to keep saying like it's not all neurotypical people, it's not all autistic people, but that's true.

So whatever I say doesn't apply to everybody on either end.

But in general, there are a lot of major issues.

I often say that some of my autistic and neurodivergent friends are more self-aware and more deeply kind of searching for who they are as a person, at least from my perspective, than some of my neurotypical friends, because they've been working on it so much in their lives you know, in terms of, well, why did I react that way? Or why is this aspect of my sensory world so dysregulating for me? It's almost like a constant self-examination, which always results, I think, in kind of not all, when it happens, it results in a greater sense of competence and comfort with who you are.