Sometimes, yeah.

Okay.

I need to get one from the dollar store.

I get hot flashes.

Mm.

So I need to get a little fan.

Sometimes this is not enough, you know? So if I just always have one with me, a little pocket one.

Great name.

Yeah.

Five Americans bellied up to this bar.

Like, I was the fifth [laughs] that walked in.

The two couple on my right work for the State Department.

One of them had just retired and the other one was close to retirement, and they were beside themselves with the stuff that was going on.

Everybody's like, "Do it." [laughs] "Bring your kids here.

I mean, that was a, that was a hope to try to get, like, that option on the table.

Yeah

... like, I think, like, with Dawn, like, you know, the hatred towards her, and then, you know, you saying, like, we don't really have a society that's, like, tolerable towards children.

Like, a lot of people view children as an inconvenience.

Yes.

Because children do things that are very inconvenient, and they add a lot of stress and anxiety to situations.

And what does Dawn do? She brings out a lot of stress and a lot of anxiety, and she's constantly just like, "Eh," like, like Dark Willow said, like, "Mom, Tara, Buffy,"

Mm-hmm

... that from my understanding, we have to withdraw within 10 years, and it is taxed to me when I withdraw it, and we're already two years into that clock.

And the complicated part is that of my three siblings, I'm the only one with actual income.

[laughs] Those, they can kind of play, they have more options.

For me, I'm trying to kind of balance when do I take it out, when, you know, how can I...

Now that I own my own company, could I, you know, ke- leave all my commissions in the company and not pay myself and, you know, use the, that to offset the tax implications for that part of the inheritance? Um, because it is really important to me, one of my dad's big things was, you know, to minimize tax as much as possible.

Mm-hmm.

That is, like, you can't actually bill insurance for that time, but it all has to get done.

The family members who were old enough to remember her and wonder where she was either didn't or couldn't do anything to look for her.

She had a horrific life, and her final foster family actually adopted ...

Well, they fostered me for a few years, and when they couldn't find my biological mom, um, her last foster family adopted me.

Um, they didn't tell me anything much about her, so I started snooping.

[laughs] But, um, I'd, I'd been searching for her my whole life.

One of the things that, uh, for my family, my adopted family, to adopt me was they had to tell me I was adopted, because they were quite elderly when they adopted me.

And, uh, they would not tell me anything about my biological parents.

Although it seems things didn't get easier for her.