Chantal Bisson
Shantelle Bisson — Canadian author, parenting expert, and host of the "Without Losing Your Cool" podcast; wife of actor Yannick Bisson and frequent The Tonic guest.
4
APPEARANCES
2
PODCASTS
Oct 10, 2026
Jamie BussinHOST
So why do you think long-term marriages break down? What are some of the factors that impact that?
Chantal BissonGUEST
And for me, the biggest reason I believe that long-term marriages don't often happen is because so many people have unrealistic expectations of what a marriage should be.
Chantal BissonGUEST
There's, you know, there's this whole romantic notion that we're always going to A, be attracted to each other.
Chantal BissonGUEST
We're always going to be able to, you know, get to the root of a problem and move through it and move past it.
6 MINS LATER
Ben MulroneyHOST
So how important is it? How much of the process is done under the cover of darkness?
8 MINS LATER
Jamie BussinHOST
What do you see as the biggest differences between, I guess, old school parenting and what's going on today?
Chantal BissonGUEST
I see the biggest difference is that, so when I was young, sure, I had a key to the house when I was nine and 10 years old.
Chantal BissonGUEST
I was like my own little landlord, which is kind of crazy when you think about it.
Chantal BissonGUEST
But there was a beauty in that because there was a trust that parents had with their children.
Chantal BissonGUEST
There was an inherent understanding that my kids got this, whereas now there's this inherent understanding that my kid can't do anything.
Jamie BussinHOST
I guess the trick is not to sort of expect your partner to fill the gaps that are now there because your kids are gone, right?
Chantal BissonGUEST
And that book was written for parents, like people who are couples, and they're thinking about having children.
Chantal BissonGUEST
And that book, Raising Your Kids Without Losing Your Cool, goes from the concept of where we want to be parents.
6 MINS LATER
speaker_1NARRATOR
we'll be