like

they're never doing enough or they're never doing it right.

So they're very critical of themselves.

They can be very critical of their children.

A lot of times there's, again, kind of that sense of a spotlight, like, oh, everyone's watching or no one thinks I'm doing this well.

So it adds this pressure.

And so with parents who have a child who's upset in that situation, they're more likely to feel like they've done something wrong.

So for a listener who's curious about this process and curious about maybe their own attachment history, where can they start exploring safely and reliably start exploring their own attachment history?