I use it a lot, this piece of advice, because the world

is really critical.

Yeah.

And she said, criticism says much more about the person giving it to you than it does about you.

But she said, but you can extract useful stuff from it.

So take what is useful to you and then move on.

And she said, you know, be grateful.

You're going to mess this up.

Let's do it.

So wherever you are in the world as you listen, you could be standing or sitting for this, I'm gonna invite you to soften your gaze or you can close your eyes.

Obviously, if you're driving a car, don't do this right now.

But if you are able to stop for a moment safely, then just close your eyes or soften your gaze.

And I want you to start to notice your body.

A lot of our day we're running around and we're just thinking thoughts, responding, telling ourselves stories, listening to people.

So just come back for a moment to the body that carries you around and just really feel your feet on the floor.

Right, right, right.

I think, "Faye, why are you diluting your, your voice with these words?" Do you have any tips for the girlies who are listening? How can we get rid of these filler words or minimize them?

This is the million-dollar question, isn't it? My strong sense around fillers is that if you just close your mouth, which [laughs] that's like the kind of advice my mother would give me.

If you just close your mouth instead of using the filler word and take a relaxed breath, it does two things.

An in-breath allows your brain to take in new information, so it helps you think.

There's a so.

And it also stops you doing the filler because your mouth is shut.

So just taking a full stop, closed mouth, let the air come in, and then saying the next bit will minimize fillers so quickly.

So a breath instead of a filler.

I think, Faye, why are you diluting your voice with these words? Do you have any tips for the girlies who are listening? How can we get rid of these filler words or minimize them?

This is the million dollar question, isn't it? My strong sense around fillers is that if you just close your mouth, which sounds like the kind of advice my mother would give me.

If you just close your mouth, instead of using the filler word and take a relaxed breath, it does two things.

An in-breath allows your brain to take in new information.

So it helps you think there's a so.

And it also stops you doing the filler because your mouth is shut.

So just taking a full stop, close mouth, let the air come in.

She starts to explore what happens when someone technically has the content, but somehow still doesn't sound like themselves.

I'm going to go to a client I was And she said to me, they've gone through a lot of transformation.

I have big all hands and I get onto the call and I feel like I'm in an exam.

I have a script and I say it.

And when she walks into the room with you, she's full of presence.

She carries herself beautifully.

Her voice is powerful.

And Caroline then names something that helps clarify the difference between just being impressive and actually being trustworthy and influential.

... you may be required to speak at someone's wedding, and that is a lot of pressure.

It's so high stakes, isn't it? Because it's all the people that you love.

It's a once in a lifetime, you hope, day.

My father died a year ago, and so at his funeral, you know, we, we thought about the rather sadder end of this.

And these m- these moments in our lives where we're speaking for the people that we love are really, really important.

But I think what I would say is that the best advice I got on this was for that first book, and it was the playwright David Hare, and he said, "Nobody else can tell you what to say." It's a bit like what we're talking about in terms of being a medic and that real felt sense of w- of what's, what's true for you.

You have to really sit down and think, well, two things: What is it that I wanna say about this person I love, and how would they like it to be framed? I don't think...

That's why you Rack.

Do you have any tips for... wedding speeches because i'd imagine if you're not in a job where you are required to speak you may be required to speak at someone's wedding and that is a lot of pressure it's so high

stakes isn't it because it's all the people that you love it's a once in a lifetime you hope day my father died a year ago and so at his funeral you know we we thought about the rather sadder end of this And these moments in our lives where we're speaking for the people that we love are really, really important.

But I think what I would say is that the best advice I got on this was for that first book.

And it was the playwright David Hare.

And he said, nobody else can tell you what to say.

It's a bit like what we're talking about in terms of being a medic and that real felt sense of what's important.

what's true for you, you have to really sit down and think, well, two things.

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