So how do we get past some feelings of disappointment we might feel if we're not successful at first?

Yeah, I think anyone who tells you that every gardener you know has killed so many things.

It's true.

Yes, yes.

To get to where they kill things less.

Like, you can't control conditions.

You can do everything right and get the wrong result, or you can neglect your plants and get the biggest crop you've ever gotten.

So my question is, what helpful ideas or tips or even feelings do you guys have? for not demonizing people that don't have all these wonderful um things to contribute for example you know you walk into your child's high school gym and there's the soda machine sponsored by whoever and my poor child can't even get water and instantly i'm just you know going berserk um and you definitely both hit on it a little bit but just from your personal life any thoughts