Has that been your experience at any other moment where you could have reacted really badly, but you really were able to get the clarity of mind to react in a better way?

Absolutely, and so it's been a process to learn how to do it because when I first started, I had a sim- a very similar experience, this notion that life is out of control.

I can't stop it, and I have no autonomy in the situation.

And that experience happened, let's go back maybe 10 years prior, and 10 years prior was when I was in New York City.

I was just about to start law school.

I had a fiancé, and I get a, basically a message saying, "I'm not coming.

Uh, we're breaking up." So I'm in a city I've never lived in in my life.

What is different?