Here today, we have a simple exercise that takes five minutes and you can practice anytime you need to ground yourself and want to foster a sense of compassion for others.

I'm going to ask you to close your eyes if you're comfortable.

Some people will talk about this as prayer.

Some people might talk about it as just lifting up a person.

Maybe it's manifesting or holding them in your mind.

And what you're going to do is you're going to think of first someone that you love dearly.

And what I want you to do is to pray for their, or wish for their, or manifest for them.

Come on over to my Substack this week, with and for by Dr. Pam King, where I'm asking you to share a surprising moment in which you experienced

Am I getting that right? Mm-hmm.

Yeah, absolutely.

The relational perspective for me really emphasizes another kind of fancy word, right, which is intersubjectivity, which is this idea that I bring my subjectivity into the setting and my client or the parishioner or whoever it is brings their subjectivity.

And so something unique emerges out of that, right? What's interesting is not just what's in the mind of the client.

What are our two minds doing? creating, what's emerging from that, right? Thomas Ogden, the great analyst, says that it takes two minds to think.

And so I'm constantly wondering what's going on, what's the relationality in my client, what's my own relationality that I'm bringing, what's emerging from this together? Of course, then the affective piece, right, again, that I'm bringing, what are the affects that I'm noticing in me? What are the affects that I'm noticing that are emerging in my client? So it's this constant sort of really interesting emergence piece, which will move us eventually here into 4E cognition.

But like you said, what are the things that were playing out? My belief is that the client invites us into, the client invites the therapist into a reenactment of their earliest histories.

realities that are very hard for human beings to accept.