What are the most common sneaky disguises of perfectionism you see?

Hmm.

Um, well, you know, it's a little bit like you're probably, well, and I know you have this amazing software program.

I don't even know what to call it, but for podcast users, which you gave me a demo and I'm like, this is incredible.

Um, that's not, I'm more interested in people than things.

And so, but I do like the analogy.

Um, of the software programs that we upload and we don't even know that they've been either downloaded into our computer our brain or or they've just been absorbed by osmosis so you know when we all kind of can relate to that experience of not knowing how other people feel like is this normal to care this much about animals or to not care about animals? Or we don't know if our experience is shared or it's just unique a lot of the time.

So how do we as a psychologist and as a mom of three teenagers, what's the biggest perfectionism trap parents fall into?