... comes to kind of flirting and getting the reaction that we want?

Yeah.

What you're talking about is really interesting to me because I think it speaks to internal and external validation, which both have their purpose.

Both are good.

Like, I think external validation kind of gets, um, like as if there's something wrong with that, but there's not because, like w- the example you were just, uh, just talking about is we learn a lot about ourselves through how people react and how people respond to us.

It could be as simple as maybe you're a kid, you're in school, and you're doing something, and from a teacher, maybe a classmate, someone's like, "Great job," right? "You did, like excellent," like gold star, whatever.

And you learn something about yourself like, "Oh, I liked this," and, "Oh, wait, I am really good at this.

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