Where are we going from here? How are we going to attempt this?

Kinds of things I would want to know, like if I'm coaching someone around this, is what does your partner already know? And how did you disclose that to her?

Was

that in a process, a really healthy, safe process? Or was it she found it and you agreed, yeah, I did that, but then really didn't give any more information.

So I'd want to know kind of how all that worked for

you.

But then also... understand that your partner could still find out even if you don't tell them, she could discover it.

And so that's the first objection that pops into my mind.