We wanna connect with people, and why does it sometimes feel so hard and weird to do that?

It's a very different relationship, and it's very hard when we don't have cultural scripts on how to navigate it.

It's really because we don't have a lot of models for these conversations.

It creates this, like, deep loneliness of there's no one who understands all parts of me.

I know all these people, and they all know a little part of me, but not too many people that know all of me.

So we have an opportunity here to create new models.

We have to figure it out ourselves.

It took me a while to adjust to [laughs] being on FaceTime with a friend, but, like, you know, if you wanna shake up friendships out of their stagnancy, like, what's your friendship breakaway? Like, what are you gonna do to, to break up the dynamic and turn it into something that would be even more nourishing for you?

What would you say to people who are not having that abundance mindset with there's always more friends out there?

There's so many wonderful people out there that have such beautiful qualities, and I think it'll be a relief to hear that friendships are about something outside of you.

It is about a shared Excitement.

It's not about me, it's about the thing we both are excited about.

That takes the pressure off me.

It's like I don't have to be, you know, I'm sparkling or generous.

It's like those things are great, but it's, it's not how friendships actually work.

How do you approach talking to her about your concerns without pushing her away?" And I would love to broaden this into if we don't like choices our friends are making or other people in our friends' lives, is it ever our place to say something?

But it's, you know, if you do [laughs] if you do that and you're 35, people will call 911.

Well, you know, the, the rules have stayed the same, and what I learned is that every friendship needs an about, and the about needs to be clear and compelling to both people.

So when you're in third grade and you're like, "Oh, you like Transformers? I like Transformers.

Well, let's go talk about Transformers," that was enough to form a friendship around.

But we can still apply that now, today, as we make friends.

Um, you just need to figure out what the about is.

And I think a mistake a lot of people have is they extend an invitation like, "Hey, Mike.

But I think people, you know, kind of are hungry for that, but they don't know how to do it.