Oh, come on the best.

I mean, nineties, R and B nineties, hip hop, just nineties pop.

Like, um, just the best.

So I keep going back to that.

But when I want to feel something specific, I'll go further back and I'll go to my, my grandparents, my, the elder Tia's and Tio's era of music.

The, um, I still have a playlist of my Tia Mary's, uh, Glenn Miller songs and, and Tommy Dorsey.

I have a playlist for my daughter's first day, the day she was going to be born.

Well, it's you did it differently.

Oh.

So now it comes out when I'm doing a bit, so I don't, like, turn on, "I'm a character now." But it's kind of like if I'm talking about something, like for instance, my, my bit that I do in my new special where I talk about I'm the tia now, and I'm talking about my family reunion, which we just had a couple weeks ago.

Um, but I'm talking about my family reunion, and now I'm the older one, so now I'm the tia.

So when I'm explaining the story, I'm very like, I get a little bit more like this.

Yeah

... until you blow up.

Now I have Mal Hall is my go-to guy.

I have g- I have guys all over the country, um, that are like my Florida guys, Ron Hortman.

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And I see them.

And then it was just one of those things that we don't even know why we're fighting.

And I wasn't going to fight the older sister because she's bigger than me.

But the younger sister, we're about the same age.

So I guess we're fighting.

It was like one of those kind of things.

was like, am I going to watch my dad die right now on

Do you feel good?

I'm good.

Yes.

Okay, so what you were talking about when you get on stage, and, like, feeling understood or feeling like we're the same or feeling like that feeling and how you've been able to be in this for, you know, 20-something years For me, I enjoy that feeling on stage and the laugh and all of that.

But the moments that strike me more, that shift me more, that make me go, "I need to keep doing this"-

Mm-hmm.

More just...

So I've gone back to, like, just simple prayers.

[laughs]

Okay.

So my friends would always tell me that.

Anyways, now we're in COVID 2020, and everything goes away, and I was okay with it, and it was my first time in my life where I was having thoughts like, "You know what? If I never book another acting gig or go on tour again, I think I'm okay.

I think I've done enough to where I'm like, I did it.

That was fun.

I think I'm good." Never in my life did I think that I would say those words.

Yeah

We, I was there, we were there in, uh, in, uh, San Diego shooting something.

I had, I had no idea then that I was gonna be a comedian, and, but I knew I wanted to be an actress.

That's the whole reason why I tried out to be a Raiderette for the Raiders.

I was, I was like, um, "I wanna be an actress, but I don't know anything about being an actress, and I've never lived anywhere but my mom's house, so moving to Hollywood feels like a really big risk." And so I was like, "I'm gonna take this as my sign.

I'm gonna try out for the Raiders, and if I make the, the squad, the Raiderettes, I'll do it for one year, and then I'll move to Hollywood and become an actress." And so I did, and we went to the Super Bowl, and I came home, and the very next weekend after the Super Bowl I packed up my car, my little station wagon, and drove here, and I started as an extra.

... other hobbies and other ideas, and this is what I do during the day."

I al- I almost wanna say that there's also a sense of, like, you know, a more modern term is radically accepting something.

When you accept, like, this is what it is, there's, um, you can maybe approach it with less, uh, disdain or resentment because you're in acceptance.

You want to hear the story?

Yeah, of course.

Cool.

I was with a guy that I was dating at the time.

I am in my early 20s.

We're on a road trip driving from Northern California to Southern California.

I'm in my early 20s.

No.

Ugh.

When I tell you the anxiety is paralyzing, I'm like, "I don't have anything to say." I'm 44 years old.

I have plenty of things to say, but the story that I'm telling myself based off of this fear and anxiety of, "Oh my gosh, I have to start from scratch," the story I start telling myself is, "I don't have anything to say.

Uh, what am I gonna talk about? Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah." And then I start going deeper, deeper into a hole that I have to climb myself out of.

I have to...

How do I write a joke? I gotta remember.

I don't, I don't remember how to write a joke.

Yeah.

Thanks, Queen.

Listen, my standup journey.

My material has always been about my life and whatever it is that I'm currently going through.

So like in my first hour special, I'm young.

I'm in my early 20s.

I'm talking about how I don't want kids, how the different the ways guys hit on me different specific to their ethnicity.

And like I'm like talking about like young stuff going out, like getting in fights, like going to the club, whatever, whatever.

A joke that almost got you in trouble.

And

I feel like I would have even more if my daughter was like in daycare or Sunday school or something.

But I don't hear any of that.

You know what I mean? So it's like I have to make efforts to I'm going to put her in the my gym class and then, you know, meet some moms in the my gym.

I am so grateful that right now in our neighborhood across the street, Um, we have two neighbor girls that one is one month older than my daughter.

And then one is about maybe eight months to a year younger than my daughter.

But we, we get together play dates.

You can watch my special Ugly

riffraff come in there and tell some jokes.

And so my last one was at the Ryman, and it was big and...

This one is probably my most intimate hour of material that I've ever done.

And I wanted it to be a more intimate space.

So it's still it's an iconic theater in L.A., but it's a little more intimate than the big Ryman theater.

That's because I'm like, you know, I'm bringing people into my journey talking, like I said, about IVF, becoming a mom, talking about breastfeeding, talking about how my relationship with my husband has changed.

Like, I didn't know that all of a sudden he was just gonna start annoying me for no reason.

Are you one of those that just shows up randomly at open mics when you're trying out new material or did you have a set show that you were doing?

Mm-hmm.

And then we move into gratitude, and we talk about five things that we're grateful for.

Sometimes we don't even get to the five because each thing leads to another story, another story that we start talking about your life.

And we get to know each guest through the lens of gratitude, finding out what they're grateful for throughout their life, whether it's something that happened in kindergarten or something that happened yesterday in the parking lot at Kroger's.

Like, whatever it is that somebody is grateful for, we get to know them through that lens.And it comes out every Tuesday.

It's called Funjula.

And, um, yeah, and i- we're super excited to be a part of the Nate Land family.

Mm-hmm.

Wow.

And he was there.

I didn't even know him yet.

He came with I think Nate Bargatze and somebody else.

Like I was friends with Nate, and then I forget who else he was there with, but there's three guys, and they came to my show and he, he's the one who told me this story.

He was like, "I remember watching you on stage, and you started that nail salon bit, and the whole audience went nuts.

They're losing their minds.

Yeah, that's great.

Sure.

And, um, I had so much anxiety.

My eyelid was twitching.

I had a cold sore for, like, two months.

Like, it was just, like, my body, my nervous system was, like, freaking out.

I'm calling my friends who have toured with kids before and asking their advice and how they've done it.

So if you watch my new special and you watch all the, the thank yous at the end, I have everybody from anybody I talked about in my special got a thank you to the people that I reached out to for advice with touring this, this hour of material.

Mm-hmm.

So I have to ask, Rosalie, do you notice, like, is she more like you or more like your husband?

Um, you know, it depends on the day.

Um-Right now she's real moody, which I think is me.

[laughs] Like, she gets real emo, and when I was growing up, my nickname was Eeyore because I would always- Oh, really? ...

feel sorry for myself.

[laughs] And like- I gotta laugh ... "Nobody wants to play with me." And so, like, if she'll, like, throw the ball and she doesn't catch it, then she'll be like, and, like, do a whole thing, and, like, go hide her face.

And we'll be like, "Come on, let's just try it again." "No, I can't do it." [laughs] And, like, she'll get super emo about it.

Wow

Yeah.

... to go sell a car at CarMax.

That's my maditude.

My gratitude is, um, I- I feel like I would say this every single day of my life, but my daughter always, um, I am grateful for her love for music.

Aw.

She loves music.

She loves to sing.

She loves to dance.