... like, h- where do they start?

Yeah.

Yeah.

In the lubricant world, I mean, if, if we generalize it, there's water- there's water-based, oil-based, and silicone lubricants.

Water-based is water soluble.

That means that your skin can absorb it, it can go into your bloodstream.

Um, you generally don't need to wash it off.

So tell me a little bit about what that is and who benefits from using that.

... one type of complaint that is ve- that we very commonly hear from people in those kinds of situations.

situations.Mm-hmm.

Um, yeah, the, the word curiosity is the first one that, that comes to mind.

I think in long-term relationships, uh, people stop being curious about each other, and I'm not the only one that thinks that.

In fact, I'm pretty sure this was inspired very much by, um, not Brene Brown, sorry, Esther Perel's work.

Um, and she talks a lot about c- curiosity being gold in relationships.

But in long-term relationships, so it's normal to habituate to your partner.

Mm-hmm

... their body to get used to that pattern and feel like it's building to the orgasm.

Yeah, exactly.

You're, like, you're building up, and then as I was saying earlier with my body just kinda grinding and moving, moving towards you, like, we've hit a pattern that's working.

Right? And that's happening.

And so then we s- you know, kind of stick with, stick with that pattern.

Um, and then, and when I think of, you know, if I compare, like, when I'm sucking my partner's cock and they're, or and they're, they're going down on me, eventually we kinda hit a similar place of, like, what I'm doing with their cock and, and with my partner's cock and kind of, like, on the head of the cock and it's kinda, like, this up and down, back and forth motion, my partner's kind of doing a very similar thing.

Then this is after a lot of the warm-up, the pussy hug, you know, the flats of the tongue and the mouth.

... eaten out, um, especially in regards to them feeling like embarrassed, or like, "Oh," like, "this is taking too long," or, "I don't feel good in my body," or, "I'm worried about this thing"? Um, what are your tips? What do, what do you think about that?

My name is Shawn Galanos, and this is the Love Drive.

All right, introduction time.

All right.

Hello, everyone.

My name is Amy Baldwin, and I am, well, mostly known for being from the Shameless Sex podcast.

Uh, and in a nutshell, the Amy, Amy-ness of Amy Baldwin is I'm 41 years old.

My phone number is 555-5...

Uh, we were 13, 14 year olds.

Right.

Now you don't belong, right? And it, maybe that's not how your sys- or how you interpret it, sorry.

But may- but maybe deep down your system does.

Again, everyone's going to be really different in what's important.

Some people, wanted and desired is not the main force.

They wanna feel really special, and this is, there's some theories, um, about this or there, there's a book w- written in the '80s, I think.

It's called The Erotic Mind by Jack Morin.

Yeah.

Mm-hmm

... or I'll, I'll hang out with you if you do, otherwise I'm going out with my friends.

Um, or, or a lot of the, the penises or cocks I started to suck...

I think of cocks when I'm act- like, when they're... 'Cause penises are like, they're just like flaccid walking around.

I'm not like gonna touch- be like trying to have sex with them.

Um, anyways, the first couple people that I did actually have that experience with didn't ever offer to or go down on me.

Um, so it's interesting, uh, that, like, my enjoyment isn't, like, I have to do this, but I did have this, this era of thinking that that was kinda my job.

Yeah