and that's yes

yes and I didn't realize he was a narcissist until after he walked out and then my kids were like mom dad like how did you not see this coming dad's treated you this way this way this way but in my mind I had made a commitment and and loyal to the, to a fault, you know? Um, so I just didn't see it coming, but they, through all that, they have given me a lot of perspective I didn't have because again, they're young adults.

So they've given me perspective on how their father, um, his behavior and, uh, very eyeopening made me sad.

in some ways because they have no respect for him.

They, they don't even generally like to be around him for how his treatment and how he's behaved as a man.

And yeah, so I'm hoping they've learned some things as well.

I hope having just witnessed all that, you know, they'd go, mom, what are you going to do? Oh my gosh, he walked out.

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