How would you feel about telling us a little bit about the repair?

Yeah.

The situation I just told you about happened relatively smoothly, you know, in the sense that I guess part of it was smooth.

So for me personally, and I guess everybody's a little different, the hardest part is tuning in and feeling my own shame.

I spend years, I spend weeks, I spend days, I spend hours holding clients, teaching clients to make space for each other, to be present for each other, to be non-judgmental, you know, to show up courageously, and I literally just went against all of that, you know? And, and then the shame that comes up and be like, "Okay, this is guiding me toward repair." That's what happened for me.

I guess I'm blessed in the sense that my husband doesn't hold a grudge very long, so, so even just saying to him, you know, "Wow, you know, I'm, I'm sorry.

I wasn't there for you," he was like, "Oh, okay.

That's the process of starting to get a grip on noticing when we are ruminating and making shifts from thinking about to being with.