not being funny i used to think that mums who said they couldn't get out before 11 were just being a bit a bit lazy but i can't cannot get out the house before

11 honestly like my I really think that everyone should write down like their preconceptions of like motherhood before and versus motherhood after because like I remember thinking how no I didn't I hope I didn't say lazy no I don't know but I hope I said something like how hard can it be yeah you just said I couldn't understand like how hard can it be um because because that's how I how I thought about it I I definitely definitely oh same was like god how hard can it be to get out before 11 just a tiny baby even if you look a mess like put them in the pram and off you go like just like we we found it so i remember paddy and i like trying to tag team in those early like on the weekends where like you want to get out and go for like a coffee or whatever like we had to like feed her till she was like fast asleep and she had to be fast asleep enough that we could then like really gently lay her down and then like the second she went down in the And then you start again, then you start again.

It was so tough.

Tough is all relative, but tough at times.

No, it is so tough in that moment.

But I think that that was the biggest shift.

It was like the life that I was living before, I was incredibly selfish.

how are you finding work so you're like me self-employed and essentially in the best possible scenario you'd have your baby you'd have a few weeks off you'd come back to work naps work while the baby