Talk more about it and see if you can integrate some of the pieces that Ross Rosenberg just laid out.

well it's you know look when we took the break i was talking about how our culture promotes this idea it's all about me but that's only half of the stories though the other half of the story is our culture also says you are more the more you have i am more so it's all focused on materialism so you take that and it's all about me and now my sense of self depends on what i have so if i have you Instead of being in a relationship with you, I have a relationship with you.

It means that I possess that.

And see, so that's where the veer goes off.

We think I'd be okay if.

He's talking about a very similar phenomenon.

I see it different than he does.

That is exactly what you just said.