that's my drug of choice

so to go to someone that you work with or someone that works for you and say hey you know there's times in which i don't know if i'm up for this job you know i got appointed this job i'm excited about it i'm going to give myself to it but what do you think what do you think is working what do you think's not working what do you think how do you think i need to grow what's missing from me and if you if you had that conversation on a yearly basis at least but if not even quarterly basis hey what if even if you went to someone that's reporting to you for your cto and said, hey, what's missing for me? How can I be a better leader for you? That does so many things.

It does a whole cascade of possibilities because then it gives them a voice.

It gives you feedback.

It knows how so you can be more effective.

It actually lets them know that you care about them.

They're not just a widget that you're managing.

they call them.